He thought that my masculinity was depolarizing our relationship. He said I was too masculine.
"Hallie, I think he misunderstood your passion. You're a very passionate person, and I don't think he knew what to do with that."
I still remember it. We were at Date with Destiny and we were learning about masculine and feminine energy that night. I had a realization that maybe I was becoming more masculine because of the stress my company was creating. I mentioned that maybe my masculinity was affecting him. He was so offended. He was offended that I would even consider that I would affect his masculinity in any way. Instead my masculinity was causing our relationship to become depolarized. He was so upset. He went back to our room before I did.
I stayed, thinking about the conversation. I started talking with people from my group and then started a conversation with a professional sex coach. I asked for advice and then bought his workbook.
There were often moments where I felt completely hopeless in my marriage. I felt like I was wandering in the dark trying to understand my husband and what I could do to help him be happy.
I went back to the hotel that night and apologized. I took a shower and tried to rebalance our relationship again with the advice I was just given.