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Process through parallels

I process by realizing the parallels in people I meet and memories.


I try to understand how I'm feeling by remembering when I've felt that way before.


I try to understand a friendship by thinking of a similar person I'm friends with.


Memories flood my mind when someone makes me laugh a certain way. Or get irritated. Or self-conscious. I ask myself, "when have I felt that way before?" Then I see the connections and similarities.


That's how I've healed from trauma and understood my triggers.


I look at those parallels to try and understand myself, that person, and what to do next.

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