The question my therapist asked while discussing my patterns.
"I think I get caught in the serendipity in my life rather than reality. I'll make a choice based on the events lining up rather than looking at what I really want.
Looking back...I loved the connections between my ex and me. We worked at the same jobs. Had the same opinions. Had the same friends. I loved the overlap and coincidences in our life.
And that is how the affair happened, too. I thought 'how could all of these things line up without a reason..."
And then the relationship after that...
We have so much in common.
'You're reading the same books as me.
You know that person, too?
We're on the same journey.
I can't believe it.'
And that's the cycle that keeps happening."
"And how's that working out for?"